YOUR NEEDS MATTER TOO.
Are you constantly putting your needs behind everyone else’s needs?
Do you feel guilty when you do things for yourself Instead of doing it for others?
Do you feel resentful of yourself when you attend to your needs instead of others needs? If yes, then this topic is for you.
Stop focusing on others feelings and needs, doing this, you tend to ignore your needs. Instead, create a moderate boundary or balance in your life between your own needs and that of others.
If someone constantly disrespect your needs or wants or your values, its high time you take a step backward, define your core values in life because your needs matter too.
Focus on your needs squarely, they matters too because sometimes you have to do what is best for you and your life and not what is best for everyone else. You are your priority, dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
Resentment happens when you don’t feel appreciated enough by people around you and that’s usually a sign that you are pushing too hard. Stop depending on anyone to make you feel important because you are!!
There used to be a time where I didn’t recognize my own needs, but over the last years, I have learned to set healthier boundaries with my friends, family, course mates and anyone else who has come into my life.
One thing you should understand is that you have to be more assertive. People will always try to push your buttons and get you to change your mind. However, once you start to set boundaries based on your values, you will be able to live a life that is authentic and true to yourself.
You are not disposable, and your needs and feelings matters, dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Also, on no account should you feel guilty for your needs.
Learn to respect and love yourself, ensure you take care of yourself and become your own support system. Don’t wait on others to choose you, choose yourself today.
Acknowledge your needs and apply wisdom while attending to them. Your needs matter too but dont ignore other people. Dont become foolish because you want to become selflless, people will take you for granted. Be wise!!!