Criticism can be defined simply as the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes. Everyone of you must have been criticized in one way or the other, either directly or indirectly with fingers pointing at you.
When you are been criticized, how do you feel? Criticism comes in various patterns or ways; we have…..
1. The negative criticism: which can be destructive. The criticism does not make you but mar you.
2. The positive criticism: which can be painful and heart breaking but at the sametime, it changes you positively unconsciously.
When you are being criticized, learn to ignore the voice in your mind that’s leaping to conclusions about what the criticism “means. Our minds can play games with us,” Instead, listen carefully for nuances. Repeat what you’ve heard and ask for details. Make sure you understand exactly what’s being said about you without running into wrong conclusion.
Some of you can be highly sensitive to the point of letting critics get to you and you end up reacting wrongly.
When you receive negative feedback, you root into your “emotional brain,” which bypasses your “thinking brain.” The “emotional brain” (also known as the limbic system) is where your databank of triggers and past emotional memories are stored. And by doing this you tend to get sad or feel very bad about what you heard.
RESPONDING TO NEGATIVE CRITICISM GRACEFULLY.
1. Consider the main source of the critics.
2. Differentiate the constructive from the destructive criticism.
3. Take a break from social media, go offline.
4. Be mindful to know when an insult is occurring.
5. Accept the critics and thank them.
6. Move on and be happy.
EFFECTIVELY DEALING WITH CRITICISM
1. Dont take it personal.
2. Value criticism.
3. Smile at every critics.
4. Dont respond immediately, take your time.
5. Ignore false criticisms and move on.
6. What can you learn from it? Find out.
7. Respond to suggestions positively.